Have you ever wondered why it is that we don’t do more of the things that are good for us?
If we know something will really make a huge difference to our quality of life such as drinking water, exercise, meditation, a good night’s sleep or even a disciplined budget, why is it that we don’t just do those things consistently?
A few months ago, I wrote a blog about a wonderful meditation practice that I had started which really helped me to feel lighter after a challenging period of loss in our lives. It was really quite transformational. However, a few weeks later, I stopped my daily meditations and before long, I found myself back in a funk again.
So I started asking the question:
“Why don’t we do more of the things that are good for us?”
and “Why do we sometimes stop doing what is good for us?”
This is what I know for sure:
We only change our behavior when the pain of staying the same gets too much. In other words, until we see more benefits than drawbacks to changing our behavior, we will continue to do the same things. The discomfort of the current behavior needs to get BIG enough that we can use it as leverage to make a change.
When I eventually decided that I don’t want to feel so sad and heavy a few months ago, I started meditating daily in an attempt to change the way I felt. And it worked.
But a few weeks later, I stopped again. Why?
When we feel good about any area of life, we often tend to slack off in that area a little because we think we’ve got it covered.
I started to feel good after my daily meditations so I thought I didn’t need to do them consistently anymore. I got distracted with other so-called “priorities” and before long, I felt like crap again. But not bad enough to start doing the meditations again. No! I waited until I felt REALLY crap before I started making changes again. I needed leverage!
So I started meditating every day with a new commitment and discipline. I am reinforcing how good it is for me and I feel great again. So much so, that I am going to immerse myself in 3 days of conscious teachings and meditations next month. I have decided to be pro-active and not only do what works, but learn to do it better. I want to do it so much that it becomes automatic, so that the next time I start to feel in a funk, I am able to bounce back that much quicker.
Our daily rituals dictate our future. Whatever we do, with consistency, is guaranteed to yield results. So we need to choose our rituals carefully and reassess them once in while. If we don’t, life has a way of guiding us back anyway.
One thing I know for sure is that we never master our lives and do everything “right” all of the time. Life would be so boring if we did that anyway. We just veer off track every once in a while and when we stray too far off our path, we find a way to bring ourselves back.
May you find a way to do all the things that light you up inside and keep you on track. At least more or less…